New Year Planning Date
I absolutely love the week between Christmas and New Year! The excitement of a new fresh year, filled with empty days, ready to be lived. If you’re anything like me, I’m sure those ‘empty’ days become filled very quickly and before we know it June has rolled around. There was a season in my life where this pace felt overwhelming and I felt like I was just surviving and going through the motions of life, trying to keep up. With so many demands from many different directions, I started to wonder when I would get time to actually live the life I wanted to live and do the things I dreamed of doing. I remember at that time, reading a book by John Maxwell that introduced me to the concept of intentional living. Taking time out to really think about the life that you want to live: your hopes, your dreams, the way you want to make a difference in the lives of others, the things that bring you life and meaning and breaking those down into bite-size steps that you can live out everyday. For me, not only did this help me to create a really practical process for achieving my goals but it also gave me a greater sense of purpose in the everyday, something I had been craving! Maxwell went on to explain that he takes the week between Christmas and New Year to reflect on the year that was and plan and dream for what was to come in the following year. He also mentioned that he took his wife out to a really nice restaurant and they would discuss it together- nice dinner, wine and future dreaming- sounds like a great plan! So I borrowed his idea (Thank you John!) and it has become a habit for Mark and I ever since. The first year I was a bit intense with white boards, multiple templates and the need for planning perfection. However, since then, we have come up with a process which has really helped us and here’s hoping it might help you too! I want to add, obviously because we are married this process is done together but if you are single, you can follow the same steps and maybe even share with a close friend or family member.
- Individual Reflection
Before we move into the New Year planning, we reflect on the year that has been. For us, with faith being such an important part of our life, this reflection always begins with prayer and asking God to lead us through this process as we believe He is the one who places these dreams and desires in our hearts. Some of our guiding questions are: What did we do well? What are we proud of? What didn’t we do well? What are areas we need to grow in? How did we do with the goals we set for ourselves? It’s really helpful to know where we are, before deciding where we are going.
- Go Somewhere Inspiring
This may sound strange but there is something about escaping the normal hustle and bustle of life that helps us to dream. If I’m at home, I get distracted by the dishes and laundry that needs to be done and I’m not really in the mindset to see beyond what is right in front of me. For us, this means getting a babysitter (we usually try for a whole day) and heading to fun cafes, great restaurants and beautiful scenery. These options may not inspire you, so make sure you find a place that does.
This part is fun! This is where all rules are out the door and you just write down the things you would love to do with your life. Don’t be afraid to dig deep, sometimes the things we are called to are buried under the fear that we could never get there. What are the things that you hope for? What are the gifts God has given you to make a difference in this world and how can you share them? How do you want to grow? What would an amzing year look like? This doesn’t just have to be for the year ahead, maybe it’s a long term goal or something that may take 10 years. Make sure you write it down, on a whiteboard, note paper, your phone, whatever, just make sure you keep a written record. Even just sharing these dreams with each other is an awesome experience, to really know what the other is hoping for can be very insightful.
- Creating the Goals
This is where you break down the dreams into really practical goals and steps. Something you can do every day or once a week and create habits out of it. You can honestly make this process your own but for anyone wondering, we do create goals around a number of different areas. I know this is a little overkill with the alliteration but it helps me remember: faith, family (kids and marriage), fitness, friends, finances and work (or the ways we want to serve people). These are the things that are important to us and I guess the question we ask for each section is, “How do we want to grow in this area next year?” It may sound silly to have goals around these things but if you decide that it’s important to you, it deserves intentionality. One of our strongest values for both of us is to have a strong marriage but we know this doesn’t happen by accident. So one of our clear goals next year is to have a weekly date night. This doesn’t always have to be going out but it does mean that one night a week is permanently blocked out for time together. I can confidently say, if we were not intentional about this, with our crazy life, it would not happen. Whatever your goals are, it helps if you are as specific as possible.
- Create Accountability
If I’m really honest, this one is hard for me. I’m not a naturally structured person and sometimes the thought of working on goals can feel like another ‘to-do’ list. This is where the power of my WHY comes in. It helps me to come back to the dream, the bigger picture vision for life. I know that without the daily discipline my dreams may never come about and this is what keeps me going. For us, this practically looks like reviewing our plans and goals on a Sunday night once the kids have gone to sleep. Not only does it keep us on track but also helps us have new focus for the week ahead and get on the same page.
A few tips…
- Don’t make too many goals, decide what is most important and set yourself up to win. We don’t commit to more than 10, focus is really helpful.
- It’s helpful to pay attention to the season you are in and be realistic about what you can achieve. For example, we moved house and had a new baby last year so we went pretty easy on the goal setting.
- YOU are the one creating your goals, you are allowed to change them. They’re meant to serve you and if they are no longer doing that, it might be time to re-evaluate.
- After working with many different people on creating and smashing their goals, I can definitely say that you have to find what works for you. You may need to find your own style and language around it. I know people who are put off by the concept of ‘goal-setting’ and prefer a different language to describe how they plan for the things they desire in life. Find what keeps you motivated and bring others along for the journey!
- ENJOY IT!!! How amazing is it that we have the freedom to create and plan this beautiful life we have been given.
We pray that 2019 is an amazing year for you and know that we are cheering you on as you seek to live this life to the full!